You know I have never been good at rhetoric.. or those who think they *may* be funny by using it .. but today .. I was asked ( and I am supposing it was rhetorical but i may be wrong ) .. this simple question..
"Could you BE a bigger Bitch? "
let's see Chandler.. I think maybe I could.. I also think you misunderstand the way I am .. so for you... here is my answer.. and I am sure it will be lost on you cause you just dont get me anyway ..
If you think being forthright and honest is being a bitch then I probably COULD be a bigger one..
If you think I am the way I am just to make people mad or to hurt people's feelings you are wrong. I could be very hurtful and hateful.. but I am really not that kind of person .
I have very definate opinions about things if you dont want to hear them dont read what I have to type or pay attention to a damned thing I have to say . I will not apologize for the way I am .. I am very Happy this way .. no one ever has to guess how I feel about them.. If i dont like you .. I will tell you .. If you disagree with the way I say things or think I should be "nicer" its not happening.. I dont go out of my way to be harsh.. but unfortunately sometimes the truth and being honest is harsh and there is no other way around it.. also .. I am not here to baby feed any one information.. not my job so if you are looking for tact or to be handled with kid gloves you are barking up the wrong tree.. i am direct and blunt.. i do not have use nor time for extra words or trying to "soften" myself..
However.. if you took the time to get to know me .. you would see its really better for me to be this way .. keeping things bottled is unhealthy..I dont think you realize the amount of comments and mail i get saying they wish they could be like me and just tell it like it is .. and i dont just unleash my wrath on unsuspecting people.. I unleash it when I have been pushed to a point of no return and if you are brave (or stupid ) enough to do just that .. then you get what you get.. and if you cant handle it maybe you should have stoppped before I reached the boiling point.. and there are signs.. its not like i start to simmer under the surface.. and then all of a sudden explode.. I give you a chance to run.. if you happen to want to run toward me instead of away then that is your choice .. be prepared for what happens next..
I also leave room for intelligent debate.. but will not tolerate arguing for arguments sake.. makes me crazy.. if you disagree with me .. come to me with facts.. tell me WHY you think the way you do .. i want data.. i want info .. dont just tell me "because" or " that is the way its always been done" .. those kinds of things dont fly with me .. I realize we are all different .. we all have our opinions but please be smart about it .. dont just start spouting off about things in which you have been told this or that and you take it as truth with out question..
This is directly to the person that asked.. and I would like to know why you think I am a bitch .. since that one sentence is all i recieved and of course got no response when i asked my question as to why i was being asked.. and i suppose i never will.. All I can say to you is this .. I would rather you think I am a bitch for no apparent good reason than to EVER think I would back down under pressure or think just because you think that way of me .. will make me change..
I hope I answered your question.. because i never got an answer to the one i sent back to you .. and its doubtful I will ..
"Could you BE a bigger Bitch? "
let's see Chandler.. I think maybe I could.. I also think you misunderstand the way I am .. so for you... here is my answer.. and I am sure it will be lost on you cause you just dont get me anyway ..
If you think being forthright and honest is being a bitch then I probably COULD be a bigger one..
If you think I am the way I am just to make people mad or to hurt people's feelings you are wrong. I could be very hurtful and hateful.. but I am really not that kind of person .
I have very definate opinions about things if you dont want to hear them dont read what I have to type or pay attention to a damned thing I have to say . I will not apologize for the way I am .. I am very Happy this way .. no one ever has to guess how I feel about them.. If i dont like you .. I will tell you .. If you disagree with the way I say things or think I should be "nicer" its not happening.. I dont go out of my way to be harsh.. but unfortunately sometimes the truth and being honest is harsh and there is no other way around it.. also .. I am not here to baby feed any one information.. not my job so if you are looking for tact or to be handled with kid gloves you are barking up the wrong tree.. i am direct and blunt.. i do not have use nor time for extra words or trying to "soften" myself..
However.. if you took the time to get to know me .. you would see its really better for me to be this way .. keeping things bottled is unhealthy..I dont think you realize the amount of comments and mail i get saying they wish they could be like me and just tell it like it is .. and i dont just unleash my wrath on unsuspecting people.. I unleash it when I have been pushed to a point of no return and if you are brave (or stupid ) enough to do just that .. then you get what you get.. and if you cant handle it maybe you should have stoppped before I reached the boiling point.. and there are signs.. its not like i start to simmer under the surface.. and then all of a sudden explode.. I give you a chance to run.. if you happen to want to run toward me instead of away then that is your choice .. be prepared for what happens next..
I also leave room for intelligent debate.. but will not tolerate arguing for arguments sake.. makes me crazy.. if you disagree with me .. come to me with facts.. tell me WHY you think the way you do .. i want data.. i want info .. dont just tell me "because" or " that is the way its always been done" .. those kinds of things dont fly with me .. I realize we are all different .. we all have our opinions but please be smart about it .. dont just start spouting off about things in which you have been told this or that and you take it as truth with out question..
This is directly to the person that asked.. and I would like to know why you think I am a bitch .. since that one sentence is all i recieved and of course got no response when i asked my question as to why i was being asked.. and i suppose i never will.. All I can say to you is this .. I would rather you think I am a bitch for no apparent good reason than to EVER think I would back down under pressure or think just because you think that way of me .. will make me change..
I hope I answered your question.. because i never got an answer to the one i sent back to you .. and its doubtful I will ..
14 Comments:
At 3:02 AM,
none said…
Man, it seems like once a month you have to defend who you are. I think you should bookmark this date and anytime someone asks you why you are so direct or bitchy, just point them to this post.
It is funny that I am pretty direct too, not so much online as I am in real life. I have learned people read into stuff too much online so I try to cushion myself a bit...or atleast I think. In real life I am always surprised if I am misunderstood because usually I am direct and leave no room for misunderstandings.
At 7:15 AM,
Unknown said…
*hugs*
If you weren't you, then you wouldn't be you, and I like you.
Oh and WTF? What's this all about?
At 8:10 AM,
Deneen said…
Waht's wrong with being a bitch?
At 8:37 AM,
CraftyCritter said…
Bitch...bitch...bitch...all I ever hear. PAH-leez...Look you ARE somewhat abrasive sometimes, but with reason...Good grief people...get a life. Honesty as blunt as possible is need on occassion and it's seeming to be needed more and more in certain circles...If pointing out the obvious makes one a bitch...blah blah blah.....I'm still sleeping...as coherent as I can be right now.
Viva La Bitch!
At 10:45 AM,
ThreeOliveMartini said…
thanks wendy .. i dont leave room for misunderstanding either yet people tend to read m ore into what i do and dont to than anything else and rather ask me direct they get all mad and rile up a bunch of ppl about it ..
Kari..i know this and thanks.. and i like me too ..lol..
Deneen .. there is NOTHING wrong with it .. just apparently some ppl dont like it LOL
and Cordelia.. right on sister..
and guys i dont plan on changing just wanted to publically address something that i bet the person asking thought i wouldnt ... hahahhahahha
At 10:59 AM,
Faith said…
Gotta say while I don't always agree with you that forthrightness is something I respect. I guess they miss the heart behind it, as well as thinking it's flat out bitchiness. Screw 'em.
BTW (totally off topic - lol) have you ever had coffee milk?
At 11:07 AM,
Lime Soda said…
I have been asked the "can you BE a bigger bitch?" question many times, I always respond with "yes, I sure can be a bigger bitch, wanna see?" Anyone that can't handle it, well, they don't have to talk to me.
At 1:26 PM,
Joy said…
Personally, I think the people that are jumping up and down and calling you names are wasting their time. I wouldn't use the term bitch to describe you. Straightforward and a lady who lays it on the line, yes. I guess if those qualities make a person a bitch than I have to say that it could be worse. Actually, my first internal response to people that pull this kind of bs is "Eh. Eff 'em." So there you have what kind of person I am! ;) Love you, I do.
At 6:57 PM,
Amy said…
Hmm... not sure what prompted all of this, but damn... at least you weren't called a femi-nazi.
Much luvs, my biiioootch! *muah*
At 7:25 PM,
David said…
You know Elizabeth, there are people out there who think I am some kind of a__ h___ because I say what I think too. The funny thing is I will listen to anyone who will voice an intelligant argument and will always allow the other to say what he thinks. You and I don't see eye to eye on some things either and I will choose to leave them lay out of respect for your opinion. I also respect you for your forth-rightfulness. A "Bitch" not hardly, a caring honest lady ..... damn straight!
At 7:57 PM,
Tiffany said…
If you ever do change, I WILL call you a bitch. LOL
At 8:39 PM,
~drew emborsky~ said…
Wow, we have more in common that I thought!
At 3:42 PM,
Anonymous said…
There is no reason not to avoid people who are crazy or you know they don't respect your intelligence.
At 11:25 PM,
Alekx said…
Hmmmmmmmm I've seen you riled up a time or two, I do belive I was in your corner on those ocassions. Now that is when the word Bitch could have been thrown at all of us. hehehehe
You just stay the way your are luv. Or else I might have to call you nice names or something.
Just kidding.
Ya know I love ya
Home from AZ by the way.
Hugs
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